Hi-Identity: Girls Collecting Music -
7. Girls in Conclusion: How Should We Girls Be?
Nerdia (LA): I was at the bookstore a few weeks ago and for two seconds I was tempted to buy a pocket book listing the best Soul records ever made. No, I decided. I don’t want to follow someone else’s list. I want a snippet on TV or some clip in a movie or the radio to send me searching down a record. I want my own curiosity to lead the way.
Jo (Chicago): You go, girl! One thing the Dave Matthews Band concert brought home to me is the vital source of community music offers, the outlet for feelings and the vast resource for voicing emotions. We women may not always feel part of the "in crowd" du jour or choose to draw on the latest reservoir of expression, but we are no less drawn to music's sensuality. And that's our right. Nobody gets to determine for us what deeply subjective siren song we respond to, for whatever reason. Collecting music is a remarkable exercise in soul-awareness that no amount of criticism or macho posturing can derail. That guy I mentioned having dated once sarcastically asked me when I was going to "crack out the Janis Ian albums" to force him to share. I never did. He never earned that much of my trust.
Coolia Answers Our Music Survey
1. When did you start collecting music?
2. What is the first music you decided to like?
4. What did others think about your early tastes?
Did you ever hear flack about what you wanted to buy? How did you handle
5. What were some of the music phases you have
gone through in your life/what has been the evolution from early tastes
to now? What kind of collections do you have?
Secretly, I liked hair bands like Bon Jovi and metal bands like Guns n Roses. I started listening to college radio and learned about bands like REM and 10000 Maniacs and Camper van Beethoven and Red Hot Chile Peppers. I was usually the one to find new bands and introduce people to them. I got really into grunge. I was rarely seen without my flannel shirt.
After college, I got more into metal and somewhat into hip hop. I also developed a taste for cocktail music and male crooners. I guess my collections now would include a lot of male singers (Sinatra, Neil Diamond, Tom Jones, Elvis), 80s music particularly new wave, mainsteam metal (particularly Ozzy, Metallica) and hard rock (KISS, Aerosmith). I’m not really a completist, but I probably have most of Ozzy, KISS, and Elvis.
6. What appeals to you about your collections?
Ex: "I like my small collection of lounge singer CDs because I get
to enjoy them as trendy kitsch items; but also because I love the drama
of the struggling soloist laying his/her heart out on the line via inappropriate
I also like to revisit my 80s CDs quite a bit for nostalgia. I think my interest in metal has always been in me, as evidenced by my KISS lunch box in kindergarten, but I suppressed it for a long time because I didn’t know people who were into it and I thought it was "white trash" or not hip. By the time I was in my twenties, I didn’t care. I wanted to listen to what I liked. I also think the harder music helps me express anger or just "let it all hang out" in a relatively controlled way, like a mosh pit, and there were dark circumstances in my life in my 20s that I couldn’t control (ie, my mom's long illness) and this was a welcome outlet for expressing myself.
7. What kind of music do you share with your friends?
8. Do you make mix tapes…what are the themes
of some of your mix tapes?
I do make mix tapes and CDs. I don’t download music, though, mainly because I’m lazy. I like to make compilations of favorite bands or mix tapes on themes, such as a collection of cocktail and easy listening for a 90th birthday party we threw (3 of us turned 30) or a mix of songs about California for my drive to California from NYC. I like to make mixes to educate people, such as an intro to metal mix I made for a friend who is not really into that kind of music but curious about it.
9. Do you share tapes with men? Do you think this
is a girl culture phenomenon? Have male record aficionados ever tried
to make you feel inferior when buying music?
I'm well aware that my metal tastes are not serious or hard core and that my alternative tastes were never alternative enough for most guys. So I can immediately defuse these sorts of situations by declaring, Yes, I’ve got Poison's greatest hits and I’m not ashamed. Some guys think its cool that I like metal at all, whereas most women friends disparage it.
10. Who do you think is under-rated?
11. What criteria determines what live acts you
12. What are you exploring now? What were the last
4-5 CDs you bought?
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